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STD: A source for sexually transmitted disease prevention, symptoms and cures.

2010.09.29 10:13 glowinthedark STD: A source for sexually transmitted disease prevention, symptoms and cures.

Feeling paranoid about that one night stand? Condom broke? Got some scary blood results back? Need help understanding what your labs are saying? Share your stories, concerns and questions here. Anything and everything STD related.
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2012.08.07 22:41 Mycooljam Sexual Encounters

For people who want to meet up with local people to have sex with them, no questions asked. Just upload your name, age, sexuality and location and a picture of yourself and wait for someone to comment, or look through the page to try and find someone that suits your fancy. You must be the legal age or above for sexual acts in your country/state. If you are under the legal sex age for your country, please leave this subreddit now.
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2010.12.02 22:27 azth The Rust Programming Language

A place for all things related to the Rust programming language—an open-source systems language that emphasizes performance, reliability, and productivity.
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2020.11.25 20:09 oonlipaps Feeling guilty for cutting off toxic friend who had a miscarriage

Trigger Warning: Suicide
I (27F) recently cut all contact with a friend, Sarah, (28F) who is very toxic. However, she just had a miscarriage. I kinda feel like I'm betraying all women by ignoring that. This might be the longest "friendship" I've had in a decade, so I feel like I'm mourning a break up.
About four years ago, I helped Sarah when she was a pregnant teen (18 years old) whose 40 year old boyfriend would not recognize his child. Sarah never wanted to have a kid that early, but she skipped all her birth control pills and refused to wear condoms. Abortion is illegal in our country and Sarah kept the baby as a weird act of penance for "acting like a hoe". I felt really sorry for her since her parents kicked her out. It also wasn't like she had money to begin with.
We became close just because I was helping her sue the baby daddy (Sarah was going to get him deported). Sarah just started calling me her "best friend" all of a sudden. I thought that was a red flag, but I paid no mind to it. I was lonely and pretty unpopular. Two years later, another red flag pops up: Sarah had been lying about her age. She wasn't a teen mom, she was even older than me.
Unfortunately, Sarah's decision to keep the baby unearthed so many other problems in her life: 1. Baby Daddy and Sarah married, but Sarah resented having to give up her career and becoming just a mom. 2. Sarah eventually became a teacher in a small school and had a relationship with a student. 3. Sarah quit her job, but carried on having affairs to silence her loneliness. 4. She eventually got an STD and her husband found out. This resulted in an on-going annulment that's really ruined her self-esteem.
Since then, Sarah's been working a dead-end job in the middle of nowhere. Sarah has been suicidal and I tried my best to keep cheering her up. But the pressure of supporting her eventually got to me. It felt like it would become my fault if she died because I stopped supporting her. Sarah became really possessive of my time. She would get mad if I refused to cancel dates with my boyfriend just to hold her hand as she cried.
Sarah never listened to advice either. I had to put my foot down when she started saying things like "It's okay if I kill myself. You'll take care of my kid, right?" and "Please send this suicide note to my kid in case I off myself tonight". She was admittedly a bad parent. She would have sex with random men in the same room as the kid. She would always rationalize that by saying "oh my son was sound asleep".
I learned just how painful and frustrating it was to see somebody you care about throw their life away. And just how painful it is to see a person ruin somebody else's life. I finally established my boundaries: I told her to get therapy before she comes back ranting to me. She realized she needed help and she did seek counseling. I was really rooting for her.
But then familiar patterns started coming back: 1. Sarah had a relationship with a married man and thought she could make it work. 2. Sarah had another relationship with an older man and ended up getting pregnant. Same situation too. She refused to use condoms, told the guy she was on the pill, but completely ignored taking the contraceptives.
Even before finding out she was pregnant, Sarah told me she didn't want one more kid.
Upon finding out, Sarah came to me and told me right away that she wanted an abortion. It's just she didn't know where to get it done. Neither did I, but I turned the internet inside-out trying to find a way to get her one.
As I was sending Sarah all my leads, then she bursts in with this question: "But aren't you excited to become an aunt again?"
I flat-out told her no and ignored her after she started romanticizing the idea of having another kid, marrying again. Within just twenty minutes of conversation, Sarah was already second-guessing her own decision to abort. I told her to work on asking other people for leads over the weekend.
A few days later, Sarah texts me saying she'll keep the baby. No other words, just that.
Something inside me just kinda shutdown. It felt like I was played for some reason. Played by a person who needed help, but was stubbornly refusing it. Like I went digging for all that information but Sarah never really wanted the abortion anyway. It almost felt like she just wanted me to show I care. And just who the hell is she to demand that from me? It made me feel so used.
A few weeks later, she's messaged me saying she had a miscarriage. I still ignored her.
Tbh I kinda feel guilty about it. Miscarriage is a devastating thing for a lot of women. But I've lost so much trust in Sarah. I don't even want her to ask me how I'm doing or feeling. I'm always scared it will just turn into another futile exercise of worrying about somebody who will never change.
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2020.11.25 19:12 Automatic-Action-296 No where else to turn. What's my next step

Hey everyone so I will make this relatively fast. So quick rundown a few years ago I had a run in with a sex worker where a condom broke. Immediately after I got STD tested maybe 20 times to make sure everything was okay and came up negative on all test. So although I didn't feel 100% and felt like my body was changing I lived life as normal as my doctor instructed and told me all the lil symptoms I was feeling was in my head. In that time period I had a girlfriend and we had sex and she started going through the same exact symptoms I had went through soon after. Depression, dry mouth and lips, enlarged lymphs throughout the body,irregular bowels being the main ones. eventually I had one doctor decide to do one test they said they pretty much never test for because of how common it is. Herpes. They did the test and I came up positive for type 2. I never had any breakouts but still tested positive. So I was prescribed an antiviral for herpes and I decided to randomly take it even though I never had a outbreak and suddenly all my symptoms felt so much better. Bowel movements became somewhat more regular. Foggyness in my mind was less, and it felt like for the most part my life had been given back to me. But my doctor refuses to give me day to day antivirals because I never have break outs and she's not convinced the antiviral is solving these problems. I still have have major problems with the dry mouth and lips which seem to only get worse with time and same with the girlfriend I mentioned earlier. I'm sure this is some type of infectious disease. The guilt of possibly giving to a partner and having this effect their life is killing me and all I can do is search for a solution. What steps can I take to getting to the bottom of this? Do you think if I take a daily antiviral I will see a slow reversing of the dry lips and mouth? Is there any doctor or person doing studies on this type of thing I can contact to try and get my life back on track or maybe find a solution one day so no one else has to go through what I'm going through. I'm sure it is some type of infectious disease but I have no way of even finding out what it is, and if it is just the HSV2???
Also is there any medication for dry lips? The lip balms and overnight intensive lip treatments don't seem to be cutting it anymore and it's starting to effect both of our daily lives. If this trend continues it will be unbearable I'm sure
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2020.11.25 13:04 Dominic-McClintock Men who struggle with Same-Sex-Attraction

We have a snake attached to us. The snake is our penis. It want's to always be pleased, always catered too. Always "worshiped" and that is partly where Romans says "they worshiped the creation rather than the creator" Yes, it's true there are pagan false gods, but there are also gods of sex and sex organs, the male genitalia is one of the pagan gods of sex.
What I wanted to say to guys who have a same sex attraction is this. We are no better, but if recovery here is triggering you to meet other men here then that is not going to work for us.
I am not "homophobic" I don't fear any one struggling in sins. I will say that the Bible does speak against sexual sins, specifically orgies, homosexuality, animals, and adultery with lusting after someone who is not your wife.
Now, there seems to be a debate in the church (or some places who call themselves 'christians'). What I mean is there is a movement that "accepts" and "tolerates" homosexuality in the church and tries to argue it. That is that biblically accurate. I met a guy online who tried to convince me to read other books to try and prove his point of 'gay and Christian is ok' and I said, "Have you read Romans 1 and he tried to convince me that the word for "homosexuality" was translated that way and on and on he went". I'm sorry but the Bible is very clear that "homosexuality" is wrong and not "acceptiable" to the true Christian church.
It is true that in the last days there will be false prophets and false teachers. I hope this doesn't offend you if you are a gay 'christian' but there is no such thing as a gay Christian.
I'm not harassing you but that is just found withing the Bible.

'But God shows his anger from heaven against all sinful, wicked people who suppress the truth by their wickedness. They know the truth about God because he has made it obvious to them. For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse for not knowing God. Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused. Claiming to be wise, they instead became utter fools. And instead of worshiping the glorious, ever-living God, they worshiped idols made to look like mere people and birds and animals and reptiles.
So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other’s bodies. They traded the truth about God for a lie. So they worshiped and served the things God created instead of the Creator himself, who is worthy of eternal praise! Amen. That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other.
Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved. Since they thought it foolish to acknowledge God, he abandoned them to their foolish thinking and let them do things that should never be done. Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness, sin, greed, hate, envy, murder, quarreling, deception, malicious behavior, and gossip. They are backstabbers, haters of God, insolent, proud, and boastful. They invent new ways of sinning, and they disobey their parents. They refuse to understand, break their promises, are heartless, and have no mercy. They know God’s justice requires that those who do these things deserve to die, yet they do them anyway. Worse yet, they encourage others to do them, too.' Romans 1:18-32 https://my.bible.com/bible/116/ROM.1.18-32

There is a reason we have Romans 1 written out for us. It was written to expose the lies and teach us the truth. How can anyone read Romans 1 and still think that 'homosexual sins' are ok and 'gay Christian' is right? They can't, but they do. Why? Because.
So they worshiped and served the things God created instead of the Creator himself, who is worthy of eternal praise! Amen. That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires.
So men who still persist in their understanding of "homosexuality and Christian" are both ok are deceived, they are actually showing you and I that "they worshiped and served the things God created"
They are still worshiping their own bodies, (i.e. their love their own male sex organ), rather than God, who teaches us that 'worshiping the creation' is wrong.
Some might say "How did you get an interpretation like that?" I say it is by using the Bible to translate the Bible.
There has never been a case of acceptable homosexuality in the Bible. Sodom and Gomorrah, read the law in Leviticus too.
[Lev 20:13 NLT] 13 "If a man practices homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman, both men have committed a detestable act. They must both be put to death, for they are guilty of a capital offense.
Now how does this homosexuality start? It is obviously a love for their own body parts. That is why masturbation is so horrible. It is sex with self. It is looking at your own body parts and getting arousal from your own body parts which is a form of homosexuality, it's one more comprimising step to now see another gross thing, that is how homosexuality is born.
Homosexuality is born from childhood masturbation. It's a secret that no one will tell you because it's shameful to talk about. No one every really talks about this kind of stuff until they get into recovery or honestly can tell their closest family or friends.
Someone might say, "I am born gay". That implication is that "God made me this way" and this implies that "God created gays" which further implies "God is ok with gays" which further implies "Christians accept gays" and of course implies "the World should accept gays" and this is how the lie is created and moved from secrecy to normality.
God did not make Adam and another man to reproduce humans, but God created Adam and Eve and built them that way and made the women's body that way to produce more humans and life. Homosexuality only produces death, because there is no life to be reproduced and also it steals life because now gay couples can adopt children from children who were born from a man and a women.
This is what I'm trying to say. I don't hate gays, just I don't hate other guys caught in porn and masturbation but I submit my mind and thoughts to Jesus Christ and only look at what the Word of God says about this topic.
Now someone might say, "Hey, it's easy for you to say things like that because you are straight but I'm gay and have a difficult time recovering"
The gay man and the straight man both caught in sexual immorality have the same root within themselves. We both have turned sex into a god and it must be repented of, cut out of our live completely.
Do you think simply turning off the internet is good enough? It's not, you will still find a way to act out sexually.
Do you think giving all your money away is good enough? It's not, you will still find a way to act out.
Do you think external measures will help you if there is not internal heart change? That is what Christianity is about. It's not about doing outside works, but inside being a liar.
Let's say, you got a week or month of sexual sobriety, or even a few years, but inside still lusted after women, I mean, you were not masturbating, or looking at porn anymore, but you were flirting with other women, not your wife. I'm not here to say "flirting" is wrong, but I can't really say do it too, because the Bible says to be done with the 'hint of sexual immorality"
Let's examine some motives here. A women walks by and being a guy we notice her. She has a pretty face, and we don't even have to look down, but our eyes, can see already the shape and skin of what she is presenting to us, if we say "Hey how are you? How was your weekend? Oh yeah, did you watch any good movies" and the questions go on and on and by now "you know" why you are talking with her.
If you have honest intentions, and want to keep your talk holy, then a simple "hello, how are you?" is good, but if you keep going on and on and asking and then say something like "hey let's get some lunch sometimes". Your body will tell you if you went too far, if you feel that euphoric feeling, if you have those butterflies, if you have an erection in your pants, if you noticed that liquid exit your male organ, you have lusted and your body told you so. I'm not trying to make you stumble when I write this but let's be honestly,...leading that conversation made all the things happen to you. I have learned that I need to make the decision not to have long lengthy conversation with other women because it can happen.
Now is here is the awful thing, if we claim to be a Christian, yet still try to flirt and "just have lunch" and next "try have another date" and "try to go to her house" and we leading ourselves down the wrong path. Because it will lead to sex before marriage. That is not what sexual sobriety is about.
Why do I talk like that? Because I used to do that. Any women, I would meet, it was start off with innocent conversations, then exchange numbers, then exchange emails, then invite over the house, then bam, a fall. Now the pain of getting tested for STD's, now the pain of rashes on my body, now the shame and secrecy, and here was the worst part, I still wanted to "claim" that I was a Christian and still 'visit these places" and "meet these women" because I used to reason within myself, "it's just a little and God will forgive".
Do you know what the Bible says about "turning God's grace into a license to sin?" Let me share with you.
'I say this because some ungodly people have wormed their way into your churches, saying that God’s marvelous grace allows us to live immoral lives. The condemnation of such people was recorded long ago, for they have denied our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ.' Jude 1:4 https://my.bible.com/bible/116/JUD.1.4
Then I learned that this is really what grace teaches me,
'For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with wisdom, righteousness, and devotion to God, while we look forward with hope to that wonderful day when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed. He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds.' Titus 2:11-14 https://my.bible.com/bible/116/TIT.2.11-14
I used to be so afraid of going to hell, so afraid of God telling me "I never knew you" why? Because I still wanted to hang on to my sins, and I knew that I can't have both my sin and my God.

The pain never ended. I was like the lost man in Proverbs 5-7 who visits the immoral women for sex and he didn't know that it would cost him his life.
I played with fire over and over again.
God finally got me. I hit my rock bottom. That was over 4 years ago.
I am sharing all of this with you now because I don't what you to go down the same path I did. I'm not that old, not even in my 40's but I have done so much and yet God let me live. I have to give my life back to God now 100% percent because God is worth it and I don't want to make my wife and family sad anymore.

Sometimes the things I say sound extreme or harsh but I don't know how else to say it. I'm not trying to please men and speak words of kindness as if to make our sins sound acceptable?
Do you want to know what a drug addiction pastor told me? He said "Do you want your children to know you as their dad who jerked himself all the way to hell?" I was shocked because I have two boys and I don't want to go through this secret shame like I did, I don't want my boys to go to hell to burn forever and every, screaming, gnashing their teeth and wailing, ....all because I would not let go of my sin. my idol, my penis, my picture, my life, me me me,
We have a snake attached to us. The snake is our penis. It want's to always be pleased, always catered too. Always "worshiped" and that is partly where Romans says "they worshiped the creation rather than the creator" Yes, it's true there are pagan false gods, but there are also gods of sex and sex organs, the male genitalia is one of the pagan gods of sex. The snake in the garden of eden tricked Eve and Adam so they got the sinful nature now. That is when the snake in the garden of eden and the sinful nature was transferred to us. So now, we have been suffering with that "snake" (sexual immorality, the attitude of I will please myself however I see fit")
Jesus wants us the crucify our flesh. Put it to death, put that brain into check with God's purpose and not feeding it with little hints of lust here and there. Not entertaining sexual thoughts.
Dear Jesus, please rescue us. Please help us. In Jesus' name. Amen.
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2020.11.25 13:00 Maemae115 C++ help find duplicates in an array and print the values only once each.

Hi everyone. Could someone help me figure this out? I need to find the duplicates (or multiple occurrences of the same element) and print them but only once. I can't use vectors, functions as we haven't learnt them yet. (I'm a beginner and we're not allowed to use vectors, unique, hashing, etc)
Tests that pass:
5 1 2 3 4 5 (should return nothing) passed
4 1 2 2 1 (should return 1 2) passed
10 1 1 2 2 3 3 4 4 5 5 (should return 1 2 3 4 5) passed
The only test that this code doesn't pass:
6 1 1 2 1 2 2 (should return 1 2) didn't pass, returns 1 1 2 1 2 2
After googling this is what I think I should do (but can't figure out how):
  1. Get first input and put it into a new array
  2. Get the next input and check if it matches anything in that array. If it does, remove it, if not, put it in the array.
  3. Repeat step 1 until there are no more elements.

I've tried to do this with a do while loop (tried to squeeze in continue; but didn't work).
Any hint on how this should be done? Thank you.


#include
#include

int main()
{
int N;
std::cin >> N;
int dynArr[N];
for (int i=0; i std::cin >> dynArr[i];
}

for(int i = 0; i < N; i++){
for(int j = i+1; j < N; j++) {
if(dynArr[i] == dynArr[j]) {
std::cout << dynArr[i] << " ";
}
}
}
}
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2020.11.25 07:43 WildChild2001 Do I need confirmatory testing?

Hello! I was recently diagnosed with HSV2 and have been finding this community very helpful actually. However, I couldn't help but get into the research of false positives and somewhat unhealthily have developed a hunch that maybe I should get confirmation testing. Here's my story:
I asked my doctor for a full STD test just to be safe after a partner told me I might have been exposed t chlamydia. I didn't have chlamydia, but my doctor called and said I tested positive for HSV2.
I got my blood drawn at quest and am able to see my results on MyQuest. My results say "HSV 2 IGG, Type-specific AB" with a value of 1.12 H which barely crosses the index of >1.09 being the cutoff for a positive result.
Now, I know IGG tests are more reliable than IGM (which was negative for me) but I have been doing quite a bit of research on "low positive values" in which values from 1.10-3.5 are considered "low positive values" highly susceptible to false-positive results, and can't help but wonder if I should get confirmatory testing. I believe my test did not include the reflex testing in which they automatically rescan such "low positive values" with another assay, and this result was taken at face value from the first immunoassay.
I know that I might just have genital herpes, which I something I know I could adjust to living with, but honestly, I have a lack of symptoms and my brain can't help but wonder if something is off here. My final question is, do you guys think it is in my best interest to look into confirmation testing? And if so, what is the best method to do so?
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2020.11.24 23:36 adaringcouple 36 [MF4MF] South of Boston (South Coast) Married Couple searching for fwb’s.

Nobody too young please. Mid twenty’s and up.
Female: 5”3 BBW thicc brunette wears glasses (medium thicc) Bi-Curious
Male: 6ft lil bit thicc and uncut, short trimmed beard, cute and wears glasses
We’ve only had one ffm threesome. Interested in soft or full swap. I’m (F) interested in men similar to my husband when it comes to looks and woman with similar thicc-ness like myself. My husband is pretty much in agreement with my interests other than him being straight.
We are hoping to find a like minded couple that have a lil experience with knowing what they are looking for. If you’re a couple that’s new too this scenario, we aren’t opposed to chatting and seeing were things go.
Ideally we’d like to meet first and make sure the chemistry is there before going to that next step. However we also aren’t opposed to another couple making a move quicker.
STD/Covid free and we expect y’all to be the same.
420 Friendly, Alcohol is cool too as it does help to have that liquid confidence sometimes if needed.
Edit: No single men please. Also would like to meet a couple that’s flirtatious and possibly make the first move. It would be fun to see a woman flirt with my husband and I.
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2020.11.24 23:35 james_tang Common Pitfalls Using "std::rand( )" Function in Quest 5

Hello classmates,
I had difficulty with programming the enter() function, such that my output matched the output of the professor's program. I will share common pitfalls about using rand()
The Issue
My output for the enter() function did not consistently match Anand's output, until I realized that my misuse of the std::rand() function caused my problem. There are six conditionals that we must use in an if-else statement chain to interpret the user's input. They are:
1 getline(cin, input); 2 if ((input == "quit") (input == "bye") (input == "Quit") (input == "Bye")) 3 {/*code*/} 4 else if (input.empty()) 5 {/*code*/} 6 else if (input.find('!') != std::string::npos) 7 {/*code*/} 8 else if ((input.find("why")!=string::npos) (input.find("what"))!=string::npos)) 9 {/*code*/} 10 else if (input.find('s') != string::npos) 11 {/*code*/} 12 else 13 {/*code*/} 
The block of code above is put in a while(1){/*code*/} loop, and after the conditional at line 2 is met. I had difficulty with programming the statement after else correctly. The statement in else should output lines according to the following rules.
If none of the above conditions matches you must do the following: i. 80% of the time print the return value of rotate_vowels() invoked using the user_input as its parameter, followed by a question mark. ii. 20% of the time print the string "Huh? Why do you say: " followed by the userinput and then a question mark. To do the 80/20 split, here's what you do: 1. Generate a random number(use rand()) 2. Calculate the remainder after dividing by 10 (This would be rand() % 10) 3. If the remainderis 8 or 9, then follow option (ii). Else follow option (i) 4. Important: Use portions of 10, not 100. 
Pitfall one: Calling rand() Twice for Each Input
... else { if (rand() % 10 == 8 rand() % 10 == 9) //output type i. else //output type ii. } 
The professor expects us to generate a single number, and check if the number is random. Say we declare an integer, int random_number. Then, there is a difference between the conditional rand() % 10 == 8 rand() % 10 == 9 and the conditional random_number % 10 == 8 random_number % 10 == 9. The conditional random_number % 10 == 8 random_number % 10 == 9 generates a single random_number, and is true if the remainder of random_number when divided by 10 is either equal to 8 or 9.
If you use rand() % 10 == 8 rand() % 10 == 9, then make two rand() and generate two different random numbers. If the first call to rand() generates a number whose remainder is 8 or if the second call to rand() generates a number whose remainder is 9, then the conditional is true. If both occur, the conditional rand() % 10 == 8 rand() % 10 == 9 is satisfied. This is not what the professor wants.
Pitfall two: Calling rand() Outside of the Else statement
1 getline(cin, input); 2 int random_number = rand(); 3 if ((input == "quit") (input == "bye") (input == "Quit") (input == "Bye")) 4 {/*code*/} ... 13 else 14 { 15 if (rand() % 10 == 8 rand() % 10 == 9) 16 //output type i. 17 else 18 //output type ii. 19 } 
If you use the above code, then you would call the rand() statement even if the conditions for the else statement to run are not met, meaning that you would run rand() more times than the professor, so your answer would not match the professor's answer. The professor expects you to only call rand() within the body of the else conditional.
Correct Method
1 getline(cin, input); 2 if ((input == "quit") (input == "bye") (input == "Quit") (input == "Bye")) 3 {/*code*/} ... 12 else 13 { 14 int random_number = rand(); 15 if (random_number % 10 == 8 random_number % 10 == 9) 16 //output type i. 17 else 18 //output type ii. 19 } 
In the above code, rand() is only called within the body of the else statement, and is only called once, in the body of the else body.
- James Tang
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2020.11.24 22:54 CuddlehugsIII Help with finding the standard deviation of a population of data?

In my university work, I've been given a task to find the standard deviation of a population of data from a file by using for loops. And I had no problem in doing so, it was simple enough.
However when I checked my answer using numpy.std, it gave me a very slightly different answer.
My calculated answer from my code was 0.34825518797588945,
but numpy gave me 0.3482551879758896
That is a very tiny difference, & I doubt it makes any difference to my work. But regardless I'd like to know why the difference is there? Any help would be vastly appreciated, just so I can fix whatever mistake I made, if there even was one, & have the weight taken off of my mind.
Many thanks.
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2020.11.24 22:10 xtinamaniac Episode 3 - "Eau My Gawd!" [RESULTS]

Episode 3 -

Hahahah!
Xtina: "When I call your name, please step forward.
SquazieSoupe
you are safe and may step to the back of the stage."
"Werk!" says SquazieSoupe, dancing off the stage. She trips on the last step.
Xtina: "Everything okay down there?!"
"I'll survive!" says SquazieSoupe. The other girls laugh.
Xtina: "Now let's begin with the judges' critiques, starting with ShaankZ."
Automoderator: "I thought your perfume was quite funny and very on the money with your white Karens line! And tonight you looks absolutely breathtaking. A real step up from the last two weeks."
Michelle: "Was it the best of the night? No, but it was sure damn funny and this look tonight is everything. Well done."
"Phew! I thought I was going to be in the bottom 3, LORD!" says ShaankZ.
Xtina: "Thank you, now moving on down to CelestialWizard07."
Automoderator: "I thought your concept got a little lost for me. I get that it was winter-themed, but then you talked about Republicans and and vaginas and infections, it just was too much. I would say that you need to edit yourself a bit more. The ideas are there, but we need to see them clearly."
Michelle: "You look very nice tonight, I can see you took that muff from your mother Manila?"
"Oh yes I did! I mopped the muff!" laughs CelestialWizard07.
Michelle: "Hahaha, that's funny! But I wish you could have streamlined your perfume down a bit more. Either make it a winter perfume, or an STD perfume - which I sure could use - or a Republican perfume. Not... whatever you gave to us."
Xtina: "Okay thank you, now moving onto AustralianChrono."
Automoderator: "Guess who's back in the top?!"
"This bitch?" says AustralianChrono, popping up her foot and blowing a kiss.
Automoderator: "Your fragrance tonight was amazing. Great concept, great visual and all around great everything."
Michelle: "You look absolutely amazing. I love this supervillain vibe. A different look for you, but it works with your fragrance. An all round excellent night for AustralianChrono."
Xtina: "Thank you, now let's move on down to flushedawayegg."
Automoderator: "You are on a high girl! You have slayed this week's challenge the house down! Your concept was amazing, your commentary was absolutely hilarious and yes you might find me in the back alley sucking dicks - who knows!"
Michelle: "I really appreciated the effort you put into this fragrance and your commentary was, I agree, absolutely hilarious. My favourite of the night. In terms of your look tonight, I might have to quit my job because my entire life has been made."
"And suddenly millions of gays applauded," laughs flushedawayegg.
Xtina: "Hmm... quite! Now moving along to sharris2475!"
Automoderator: "I want to jump out of the judges' seat and hug you, but I can't because of COVID. And because I apparently give blowjobs in back alleys! This was AMAZING. I could not stop laughing at your fragrance and your matching runway. You gave us a piece of you, and that is what we love to see here."
Michelle: "As an Anglophile–"
Xtina: "Here we go!"
Michelle: "As an Anglophile I totally got where you were ecoming from and I loved it. The British way of humour is to take the piss and I loved everything about it. This was a stellar night for you."
"Thanks slag!" laughs sharris2475.
Xtina: "Haha, alright now last but not least, it's thesharialaw!"
Automoderator: "I really appreciated your runway looks tonight, they were sleek and suave and really beautiful. In terms of your fragrance... I just didn't really get it. I was wanting more from you and I don't think you met the same standard of excellence you have been giving us in the last two challenges."
Michelle: "Your runway? Perfect. No complaints. However, your fragrance? Meh."
"Harsh words," says thesharialaw.
Michelle: "But I say it with love. You are a stellar queen. We have seen that. I just wish you had stepped it up a little bit more this week."
Xtina: "Alright thank you ladies, I have made some decisions.
ShaankZ - I have one word for you: deodorant, bitch! Condragulations, you are safe and may step to the back of the stage."
"You don't have to tell me twice!" laughs ShaankZ.
Xtina: "Thank you.
CelestialWizard07 - your fragrance contained one note too many. I am sorry my dear, but you are up for elimination."
🏁 CelestialWizard07 Fuck... here we go, lipsync for your life: the shequel.
Xtina: "Thank you.
sharris2475 - your chav perfume showed us that your are innit to win it.
AustralianChrono - tonight we were lusting for your Bloodmoon.
flushedawayegg - I spy with my magical little eye, something beginning with W...
flushedawayegg - Condragulations, you are the winner of this week's challenge."
"Yes bitch!" claps flushedawayegg.
🏁 flushedawayegg Bitch got her first win! Bam! Who's the first alternate now, ho?
Xtina: "All of you may step to the back of the stage.
thesharialaw - we needed more-a from your Aura. I am sorry my dear, but you are up for elimination."
🏁 thesharialaw My heart... sinks. This was not where I expected to be. But I am not going to give up now.
Xtina: "Two queens stand before me. Ladies, this is your last chance to impress me and save yourselves from elimination! The time has come... for you to lipsync for your life! Good luck and don't fuck it up!"
🎶 Give Me Tonight – Adore Delano courtesy of Adore Delano LLC
🎶 Walking sadly through the park / I hear crying in the darkness
thesharialaw walks back and forth and slowly drags her heels sensually. CelestialWizard07 slowly walks to the side, shaking her fur mukluks.
🎶 A girl who's trying to tell her guy / The time has come that they say goodbye
thesharialaw drops to the ground and her angles her body so that she is kneeling but has one leg extended. She plays with her body whilst lipsyncing.
🎶 Give me tonight / Then if you don't wanna stay / Girl I'll just forget you
CelestialWizard07 rips off her trousers to reveal fur panties. thesharialaw starts gyrating her hips to the beat of the chorus. The jewels on her body sparkle in the studio lights.
🎶 Walking with you through the park / Now it's my voice in the darkness
thesharialaw lipsyncs with her arms extended and her hips gyrating to the beat. CelestialWizard07 walks towards thesharialaw and pretends to ogle her. She squats and opens her legs comedically.
🎶 Gimme gimme gimme... Give me tonight / Then if you don't wanna stay
As the song reaches its climax, thesharialaw starts spinning and twirling across the stage. CelestialWizard07 jumps into a split. thesharialaw starts whipping her her back and forth and doing cha cha moves across the stage.
As the lipsync ends, the girls in the back scream and cheer.
Xtina: "Wow. I have made my decision.
thesharialaw - shantay you stay."
"Thank you, thank you..." says thesharialaw. She hugs CelestialWizard07 and goes to the back of the stage.
Xtina: "Miss CelestialWizard07 - thank you for bewitchin' us with your prescence. Now, sashay away."
CelestialWizard07 hugs the other girls before walking to the back of the runway.
"Manila's gonna kill me!" CelestialWizard07 screams and runs off stage. The girls clap and laugh.
Xtina: "Ladies! Remember... if you can't love yourself, yadda yadda yadda. Can I get an amen?"
"Amen!" the queens scream.
Xtina: "Now let the music play!"
🎶 Take me up up up up, we can fly tonight!

Next time on Xtina's Drag Race...
Xtina: "It's time to play... the Snatch Game!"
"I am shitting my Capezio panties right now," says SquazieSoupe.
Michelle: "I want you leave and never come back."

QUEEN 1 2 3
AustralianChrono WIN BTM2 HIGH
thesharialaw WIN HIGH BTM2
SquazieSoupe HIGH WIN SAFE
sharris2475 SAFE HIGH HIGH
flushedawayegg LOW HIGH WIN
ShaankZ BTM2 SAFE HIGH
CelestialWizard07 SAFE BTM2 ELIM
RepresentativeWin91 ELIM
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2020.11.24 19:59 AffectionateIndy Is being married a problem?

Hi,
Duplicate post from another sugar sub, sorry if you've already seen this.
New account for privacy reasons.
Last year my[M40] wife[F35] was in an accident that has left her unable to have sex. It's painful for her and thus not enjoyable for either of us. She's healing, but it is going to take a long time before we can even think about having traditional sex. She's a great woman and she still does her best to try and please me, but her downstairs is basically off limits. While we do engage in other forms of sex (oral/hands) it just feels cold and lacks any intimacy. I feel like I'm just being "serviced" to try and keep me happy. Sure, that's fun from time to time, but one of my favorite parts of sex is pleasing the woman I'm with, nothing is a bigger turn on for me. As a result its now difficult for me to keep my flag raised and I just don't enjoy it any longer. =( Quite honestly it sucks (no pun!) for both of us as we used to have a great sex life.
I don't want to divorce her over this because our relationship is otherwise perfect and I love her more than life itself. We've built a fantastic life together. Beautiful home, successful business, ample travel & leisure time (pre-covid), no children, very little stress. I love her and everything we've built together. I'm proud of us and it's not something I want to just toss away because "I'm not getting any sex." That seems so cold and callous. With all that said, I am a man ... with all the needs that come with a high labido. This lack of intimacy has left me depressed and distraught to the point that I don't want to get out of bed in the mornings anymore. I have to force myself to start the day. For her sake I try to act like it doesn't bother me, but she can read me like a book and she knows it seriously hurts me, which causes her stress and anguish too.
After months of this we sat down and talked about it. Because she is such a beautiful selfless person she suggested that maybe I start dating on the side to fill that need. She had tears in her eyes when she said it, we cried together and she told me she doesn't want to lose me over this and quite honestly I don't want to lose her either. Not to sound cliche but she is my soulmate through and through, we have a bond I've never had with anyone else.
After about a week of tossing it around in my head I asked her again if she was ok with it and she said that as long as she doesn't hear about it or ever have to meet "the other woman" she could accept it and she would do it for me. Since then we've talked about it off and on and she has assured me she's ok with it given the conditions above.
Quite honestly the idea of dating scares me a little. In traditional relationships people expect that you aren't "taken" as most are trying to find their soulmate and build their own beautiful life together like we did. I can appreciate that, and I'm not a liar, but that makes dating extremely difficult, even if I have "permission" from my wife. Not to mention I don't want any of her or my single friends or family to spot me on a dating site. it would be soul crushing and humiliating for her, and I do not want to hurt her in any way. I would rather be chronically depressed forever than hurt her. So meeting sympathetic women is difficult to say the least.
A business associate recommended this subreddit (no idea this was a thing!) and it sounds like what I need. A fun beautiful woman to spend some time with, with no strings attached. Someone to spoil a little (I do well, but I don't own any yacht's) and maybe get some of those feelings I lost back so they stop clouding my mind and dumping me into a pit of depression.
So with all that said, I have a few questions for experienced SD's & SB's. I hope you all can help as I'm not really sure what to do anymore.
  1. Do SB's care if you are married? I see a few posts by married men on here with SB's and it seems fine, but I also see a few SB's calling married men "cheaters and liars." Whats the consensus here, or is it just person to person? I'm not a cheater or liar, I want to be honest about my situation with whoever I meet.
  2. It seems like a lot of SD's like the "girlfriend experience" like texts first thing in the morning and such. That sounds nice, but I can't exactly have other women blowing up my phone, it would sort of ruin the "not hearing about it" clause to my wife and I's agreement. Do SB's expect this sort of thing or are they ok if I'm the one who initiates contact everytime? Do SB's expect constant attention like a real BF would provide?
  3. Do SB's expect to be showered with expensive gifts like diamonds and other things? I'm a pretty simple man so those things seem frivolous to me, but I also understand there is an arrangement here. I do enjoy giving gifts to people I genuinely care about, but I can't exactly shower them with the finest luxuries of the land on a regular basis. I'm not a cheapass, but does the thought count here or is a SD's value purely based on dollars spent on them?
  4. How do I protect myself and my wife from "crazy" SB's that want the life I've provided for my wife and I? Or worse, just want to tear it down to hurt me if things don't go the way they want. Is jealousy a real problem in the sugar bowl or are those just fringe cases? Any tips from experienced SD's on how to best protect myself?
  5. How do I protect myself from underage SB's? The older I get the harder it is for me to tell a 17 year old from a 20 year old. It sounds horrible but should I ask for ID? LOL.
  6. If I were to take my SB on a vacation or spend several days/nights with them, am I expected to pay for every day as if it was a meetup? Is the vacation itself sufficient payment? Its not like I would say "You got your plane ticket and room, you're on your own after that" but I also don't want to pay for their time on top of all the trip expenses. Its just having a nice all expenses paid trip enough?
  7. Where are some good places to find SB's? What are the best practices for weeding out shitty SB's? Any red flags I should watch out for?
  8. How long do SB/SD relationships typically last? I'm looking for a more long term arrangement. I'm more comfortable with women I've spent time with, I've never been one to sleep around or "fuck anything that moves." Sex to me should be shared with ones you love and I tend to have emotions tied up in it. Is that bad? I also worry about STD's and I certainly don't want to bring anything home to my wife when we do get frisky. I'd prefer that my relationship be as monogamous as possible, is that possible knowing I'm married and thus won't be 100% monogamous myself?
  9. Do you think this is for me? I know you don't know me and you're just going off what I've typed here. With that limited information do you think this type of arrangement would work considering my circumstances, or is it a risky game here in the bowl? I'm very risk averse when it comes to my personal life and relationships.
Thanks everyone for your help. I hope this isn't too much to ask all at once. I've been pouring over the threads here trying to learn as much as I can. I'm hesitant, but still sort of excited that this could work for me. Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Americans.
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2020.11.24 19:52 virginallioness I feel like I'm about to have a mental breakdown

It's mostly (27f) my fault.
I got sober a little over 4 years ago. Put myself through detox, treatment, halfway, 3/4s, then got my own place. I got a full time job but damn it's expensive to be alive. I made matters worse by taking in unwanted animals. I now have 2 rescue dogs, 5 cats on accident, 4 ferrets, and 11 bunnies. I fixed all of them and now working fixing the bunnies. The amount of time and energy on the animals should be under the unmanageability part but it's actually the easiest situation out of the others I'm currently in. I started escorting again (something I'd only do when I was using) to pay for it. Everything was easy peasy at first.
I met a client (38m) who developed feelings for me. We made plans and I was going to move to him in another state. He was loving, gentle, and patient. We started dating around the end of last year. I was still working dom jobs with a handful of clients and he was understanding about it. About a month ago I made plans one weekend to have dinner with my coworker because her son had gotten kicked out of a halfway house for drinking hand sanitizer and she wanted me to talk to him after dinner.
My boyfriend flipped out and it was a hard slap in the face - and for a week tried using gaslighting techniques into making me feel bad about going when that was a day he got off work early and could come see me (even though we didn't initially make any plans). It reminded me so much of my mom before she got treatment for her bipolar. His words were like venom and they cut through me like a knife. I told him we needed a break but deep down I don't think I'll ever forgive him for the things he said to me. He now sends me photos of himself in the waiting room of therapists offices because he promised he would get help. Even said it was because of an iron deficiency. We are on the rocks.
In the period of two years in my home I've had neighbors in the same unit (different times) I've had to call police on. One tried coming into my apartment and was arrested then evicted. I felt bad for his wife and new baby. The next tenant is what I think some type of paranoid schizophrenic. I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm part of some group in the building looking to get him evicted. I've received letters on my door like "You so sad, Pervert, We don't want you here, We know you do not want us here ect". I guess there's a process for evicting someone crazy...at least that's what the leasing manager said.
About 11 months ago I started getting emails and texts from an unknown person inquiring about my services as pro dom. This person became harassing and finally told me that she was out to ruin my life because I had ruined hers (husband paying me for service). I still have no idea who she is and I've exhausted all means in finding out. This year I've found trackers on my car, emails of compromising photos of myself sent to my father, my boss, and my boyfriend's coworkers, my leasing office manager. I've changed my number 3 times, I've gotten threats from her, I've tried going to a detective at the station (he can't find anything out either), I've gotten texts of photos of vehicle tags on my guests who come over and photos of me walking my dogs. I bought a firearm and wear it on a belt wrap holster every time I leave the house. I quit seeing clients. In the last 11 months I've seen the same blue Mercedes following me 3 times. I'm tired of looking over my shoulder. I'm more scared of finding out who it is and what I'll do to her than what she's been doing and will do to me.
I guess when I ended things with my ex recently I looked constantly visibly distraught, because my quiet shy next door neighbor spoke to me for the first time in 3 years. He started coming over and we had sleepovers for 3 weeks. Last week he told me he wanted a relationship and I freeaked. I told him all the reasons that was a bad idea for me and how I simply just couldn't handle that right now, but I wanted to still be friends. He's been bitter through text for 2 weeks. It felt good for a minute and nothing more. We went thrifting one day and I got mine and his (74$, I bought a little candle) then we went out to eat and he told me I had a 25 dollar budget and asked the waiter to go to the bartender to see how many ounces was a glass of wine. We were at freaking Applebee's. He also didn't know what a UTI was. I never should have slept with him.
One reason I shouldn't have is because my ex is a lawyer and told me the "gift" he gave me of 25,000$ he could sue me back for- claiming I pretended to love him or some shit. I slept with him last week so he wouldn't.
Another reason I shouldn't have is because after the night at my coworkers house when I spoke to her son about my journey in sobriety, I started sleeping with him. He's bat shit what can I say...I am attracted to crazy. I had to tell my coworker I've been helping her son with more than just accompanying him to meetings. Turns out she wanted that to happen and I got invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas in the mountains. He spent the night again last night. I don't know what the hell I'm doing with that.
I've been going underground on the review sites for provideclients in my area to see if anyone suspicious pops off that could lead to information about my stalker. One person was creating multiple accounts claiming I had given him an STD and other things. Thinking this was my stalker (and it very well could be) I created an account pretending to be a fellow client who was concerned. I had him email me and found the IP address- a local hospital. I had a past client I had to cut ties with that worked there that sent me flowers to my day job professing his love. Without hesitation (and I should have) I textnowed his girlfriend and told him he was seeing escorts.
Little did I know they've been married since 07 and have a 9 year old kid.
I'm sitting at work yesterday (reception desk) and I look up and SEE HIM. He's in a ruffed up white shirt and all 250 pounds of him are booking it toward me while he tries not to slide out of his brown flip flops. We lock eyes and it looked like he had just taken an intravenous shot of methamphetamines. I have a friend of the owner in the waiting room and his eyes narrowed. We watch him bust through the door and lean on my desk. "WHY, WHY, WHY DID YOU DO THAT, I'M NOT YOUR STALKER, WHYY". I turn to the customer seated and said, "Excuse me", while I swung the chair around and tried to calmly walk to the restroom where I could lock the door. He follows me repeating "Why" through panting and I open the door and twist around to slam it shut and he puts his warped flip flopped foot in between the door. I have to raise my voice and tell him to get the fuck off me while I pushed him out and pushed the door closed. After waiting for 2 minutes my coworker knocks on the door telling me they got him out of the building. I went back to my desk and worked the rest of the day a little more awake. Before I left I sent a textnow message to his wife, saying I knew where they lived and if he ever showed up to my work or my home I would defend myself. I haven't gotten a reply.
I've had "It's A Small World After All" stuck in my head the last 2 weeks. I've been playing Ava Maria and Lacrimosa on the piano at night till my fingers cramp. I bought a carton last week and already need to buy another one today. I'm currently cross stitching a pabst beer can. Last night I broke down and called my mom. My coworker just brought over christmas aloe vera socks and asked when me and her son will be official. I think I need therapy or an acid trip or an induced coma for the remainder of 2020.
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2020.11.24 19:44 virginallioness My Life Is Unmanageable and I think I'm about to have a mental breakdown

It's mostly (27f) my fault.
I got sober a little over 4 years ago. Put myself through detox, treatment, halfway, 3/4s, then got my own place. I got a full time job but damn it's expensive to be alive. I made matters worse by taking in unwanted animals. I now have 2 rescue dogs, 5 cats on accident, 4 ferrets, and 11 bunnies. I fixed all of them and now working fixing the bunnies. The amount of time and energy on the animals should be under the unmanageability part but it's actually the easiest situation out of the others I'm currently in. I started escorting again (something I'd only do when I was using) to pay for it. Everything was easy peasy at first.
I met a client (38m) who developed feelings for me. We made plans and I was going to move to him in another state. He was loving, gentle, and patient. We started dating around the end of last year. I was still working dom jobs with a handful of clients and he was understanding about it. About a month ago I made plans one weekend to have dinner with my coworker because her son had gotten kicked out of a halfway house for drinking hand sanitizer and she wanted me to talk to him after dinner.
My boyfriend flipped out and it was a hard slap in the face - and for a week tried using gaslighting techniques into making me feel bad about going when that was a day he got off work early and could come see me (even though we didn't initially make any plans). It reminded me so much of my mom before she got treatment for her bipolar. His words were like venom and they cut through me like a knife. I told him we needed a break but deep down I don't think I'll ever forgive him for the things he said to me. He now sends me photos of himself in the waiting room of therapists offices because he promised he would get help. Even said it was because of an iron deficiency. We are on the rocks.
In the period of two years in my home I've had neighbors in the same unit (different times) I've had to call police on. One tried coming into my apartment and was arrested then evicted. I felt bad for his wife and new baby. The next tenant is what I think some type of paranoid schizophrenic. I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm part of some group in the building looking to get him evicted. I've received letters on my door like "You so sad, Pervert, We don't want you here, We know you do not want us here ect". I guess there's a process for evicting someone crazy...at least that's what the leasing manager said.
About 11 months ago I started getting emails and texts from an unknown person inquiring about my services as pro dom. This person became harassing and finally told me that she was out to ruin my life because I had ruined hers (husband paying me for service). I still have no idea who she is and I've exhausted all means in finding out. This year I've found trackers on my car, emails of compromising photos of myself sent to my father, my boss, and my boyfriend's coworkers, my leasing office manager. I've changed my number 3 times, I've gotten threats from her, I've tried going to a detective at the station (he can't find anything out either), I've gotten texts of photos of vehicle tags on my guests who come over and photos of me walking my dogs. I bought a firearm and wear it on a belt wrap holster every time I leave the house. I quit seeing clients. In the last 11 months I've seen the same blue Mercedes following me 3 times. I'm tired of looking over my shoulder. I'm more scared of finding out who it is and what I'll do to her than what she's been doing and will do to me.
I guess when I ended things with my ex recently I looked constantly visibly distraught, because my quiet shy next door neighbor spoke to me for the first time in 3 years. He started coming over and we had sleepovers for 3 weeks. Last week he told me he wanted a relationship and I freeaked. I told him all the reasons that was a bad idea for me and how I simply just couldn't handle that right now, but I wanted to still be friends. He's been bitter through text for 2 weeks. It felt good for a minute and nothing more. We went thrifting one day and I got mine and his (74$, I bought a little candle) then we went out to eat and he told me I had a 25 dollar budget and asked the waiter to go to the bartender to see how many ounces was a glass of wine. We were at freaking Applebee's. He also didn't know what a UTI was. I never should have slept with him.
One reason I shouldn't have is because my ex is a lawyer and told me the "gift" he gave me of 25,000$ he could sue me back for- claiming I pretended to love him or some shit. I slept with him last week so he wouldn't.
Another reason I shouldn't have is because after the night at my coworkers house when I spoke to her son about my journey in sobriety, I started sleeping with him. He's bat shit what can I say...I am attracted to crazy. I had to tell my coworker I've been helping her son with more than just accompanying him to meetings. Turns out she wanted that to happen and I got invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas in the mountains. He spent the night again last night. I don't know what the hell I'm doing with that.
I've been going underground on the review sites for provideclients in my area to see if anyone suspicious pops off that could lead to information about my stalker. One person was creating multiple accounts claiming I had given him an STD and other things. Thinking this was my stalker (and it very well could be) I created an account pretending to be a fellow client who was concerned. I had him email me and found the IP address- a local hospital. I had a past client I had to cut ties with that worked there that sent me flowers to my day job professing his love. Without hesitation (and I should have) I textnowed his girlfriend and told him he was seeing escorts.
Little did I know they've been married since 07 and have a 9 year old kid.
I'm sitting at work yesterday (reception desk) and I look up and SEE HIM. He's in a ruffed up white shirt and all 250 pounds of him are booking it toward me while he tries not to slide out of his brown flip flops. We lock eyes and it looked like he had just taken an intravenous shot of methamphetamines. I have a friend of the owner in the waiting room and his eyes narrowed. We watch him bust through the door and lean on my desk. "WHY, WHY, WHY DID YOU DO THAT, I'M NOT YOUR STALKER, WHYY". I turn to the customer seated and said, "Excuse me", while I swung the chair around and tried to calmly walk to the restroom where I could lock the door. He follows me repeating "Why" through panting and I open the door and twist around to slam it shut and he puts his warped flip flopped foot in between the door. I have to raise my voice and tell him to get the fuck off me while I pushed him out and pushed the door closed. After waiting for 2 minutes my coworker knocks on the door telling me they got him out of the building. I went back to my desk and worked the rest of the day a little more awake. Before I left I sent a textnow message to his wife, saying I knew where they lived and if he ever showed up to my work or my home I would defend myself. I haven't gotten a reply.
I've had "It's A Small World After All" stuck in my head the last 2 weeks. I've been playing Ava Maria and Lacrimosa on the piano at night till my fingers cramp. I bought a carton last week and already need to buy another one today. I'm currently cross stitching a pabst beer can. Last night I broke down and called my mom. My coworker just brought over christmas aloe vera socks and asked when me and her son will be official. I think I need therapy or an acid trip or an induced coma for the remainder of 2020.
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2020.11.24 18:10 J4mz3r0 23 [M4F] Young BWC seeking ongoing FWB

Hi and thanks for reading. Currently seeking a FWB, emphasis on friend - someone I can get to know. Not interested in a committed relationship or the drama that can come along with it. Communication and respect goes a long way, so I’d like to further talk out our expectations if you find yourself interested. Not only our expectations; kinks too. I lean dominant but do not consider myself a Dom. Outside of the bedroom I like snowboarding, reading, and gaming.
Kinks: Light choking, spanking, hair pulling, tit/face fucking, doggystyle, fingering, massages. Also curious about restraints and assplay/anal.
Stats: 5’10”, Caucasian, brown hair and eyes. NSFW pics on profile
One of my fantasies is to have a partner bent over with hands restrained so I can tease, please, and punish their backside. I regularly wear a mask and social distance these days, so proof of a negative COVID test is a must for both of us before we initially meet. The same goes for STD testing if we decide to go further. Able to send a selfie through snap.
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2020.11.24 17:13 chidsak Is humping normal? Should I be stopping my dog or doing anything different?

My 10 month old neutered puppy, has started humping other dogs at the dog park.
He plays very well with other dogs, but he will find one that he wants to hump and will start going at it. I try to pull him off, but sometimes owners of other dogs are cool and say to let it be, at other times they try to separate the dogs, and I pull mine away.
Yesterday he tried humping an older dog and the owner was nice and she said, she’d let them but her dog has bad hips.
Could someone please tell me what the etiquettes are and if I should be stopping this behavior? If so, is pulling him away and giving treats all that can be done or is there more? Or is the normal thing to just let dogs do their thing, my dog is neutered, but is there risk for doggy STDs or something?
I googled and get conflicting info on this.
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2020.11.24 16:37 greenandgreener 31 [F4M] [relationship] Anywhere - Looking for a lifelong, conservative relationship

  1. Wish you were here. I wanted to talk about Qantas airways.
  2. I just started watching Fargo. The second season. I looked up the cast of the show before I started watching it. Kristen Dunst is in it. When I was younger I heard people making fun of Dunst's teeth. I felt really bad for her. In an interview she did in 2019 she told the reporter that she was asked by some producers to have her teeth fixed, but she refused. Though she probably had dental work done at some point because her teeth do not look the same as before. I wondered what would have happened if she never had it done. And why can't we even accept an actress with "imperfect" teeth. David Bowie also had crooked teeth which he later fixed. I have heard many people claiming that his teeth did not bother them. I wondered if they would have said the same if it is just some random person with crooked teeth. I would be sad if their logic went like, the more talented a person is, the more crooked their teeth I could accept. My friend had a car accident in London some years ago and that messed something up. I am sure some men would have chosen to leave but hers did not. Her husband did not tell her to fix anything. A side note, fixing and repairing, in a relationship, are some essential skills. I do not want to be with someone who constantly thinks about jumping ship. Though we all know that some mistakes are simply beyond repair. "Would it be so bad if I slept with this girl, only once, behind my wife's back?" Yes, it would be over. I would like to find someone who not just likes the beginning of things but also the things after that. Someone who I could share both the best and the worst years of my life with. And, you know, someone to watch Fargo with.
What I am looking for -
Short version (there is a long version, with explanation, follows) -
A single, monogamous, adult man who is looking for a lifelong relationship, has time to be in a committed relationship, will become my best friend, is in shape/ not too out of shape, is reasonably healthy, is mentally healthy and stable/ mentally unhealthy and unstable but has been monitoring the progress, mentally available, is a meat eater, is a non smoke rarely smoke, is a non drinke social drinker, is a non drug addict (weed is fine), is a non gambling addict, is a non porn addict, is a virgin/ non virgin but was always responsible to their exes (always wore condoms and never had STDs), is okay with no cohabitation, is okay with no premarital sex, is not into anything kinky, wants kids (biological kids/ adopted kids), is okay with your spouse not taking birth control pills, is okay with your spouse not wearing an IUD, is debt free/ with justifiable debt, is religious/ non religious, is eligible to apply for a passport (and meet each other)
If you do not agree with everything I said above then we are not compatible. “I agreed with most of the things you said.” What does that even mean? I have had enough messages telling me that they do not entirely agree with what I said but would like to see where things go. The answer is nowhere. I do not have time nor do I want to build a castle on sand. I also have had enough messages telling me to reconsider things. I won't.
What I like -
Sun
Snow
Trees
Woodworking
Agriculture
Plants
Good food
Hot food
Hot soup
Warm words
Laughing
Wool yarn
Wool clothing
Names with stories, say like, street names
Dining wares
Trains
Photography
Old stories - old movies and shows
Good stories - movies, shows and documentaries, books, music with good lyrics
Good arts
Thrift stores
Flea markets
What I am looking for - Long version -
A strictly monogamous relationship that is happy, healthy, supportive, and lasts forever. I am not looking for dick pictures, chat buddies, dirty chat buddies, hookups, love affairs, friends, friends with benefits, sugar daddies, sugar uncles, sugar sons, rebound dating, short-term dating, several years dating, polyamorous, open, or online-only relationships.
Communication - I would make time to talk to my SO every day, and very much prefer so, even just to hear that they are safe and sound. But I would be understanding if they are out in Antarctica and the satellite Internet at the work station does not always work properly, or something like that. I would like to deal with all the hardships in life together as a team. Having arguments in a relationship is somewhat unavoidable. I like straightening things out, right away, in a logical, non violent, and non abusive way. I apologize when I make mistakes. Giving silent treatment is really not my thing. I am not saying that I do not have a temper. I do. I do get angry, but within reason. Keeping promises and being punctual are important to me.
Mental health - The amount of toxicity I could take is arguably higher than average, but please alert me if you are struggling mentally. On a side note, I hope you do not like watching porn. It is a poor choice, and is both physically and psychologically damaging. I am not asking everyone of you to agree with me on this, or any other things I say in this post. Whatever floats your boat, strangers; just let me have the freedom to find whatever I am looking for.
Distance - I am not looking for an online marriage. You could join me here. Or I could go there. A solid plan with solid dates would be needed. Future faking is a fucked up thing to do to another person. If you need nude pictures, phone sex or Skype sex to make a long distance relationship works, I am not the person you are looking for.
Meeting for the first time - I have given this a lot of thoughts, still I do not really know when and where would be good to meet up. We could meet either before we go into a relationship or after. It would probably be fairer for us to fly to a foreign place to meet, it means we would have to trust each other enough to do that. In that case it would make more sense to meet after the relationship has already been established. I think it is doable to fall for someone just by talking. Though I am aware that people are often not who they claimed they are. Those who say they are loyal could be experienced cheaters. But we will see. When in doubt, I ask questions.
Marriage - I have never been married but I would like to get married. The last thing I want is a divorce. The word marriage has sort of become a dirty word now but I am old fashioned. I like relationship labels, and I hope you are the same. A side note, I'm not into having a big wedding. Or a diamond ring. Or to dress fancy for a pre-wedding shoot. The National Gallery of Art has three self portraits of a Hungarian photographer and his wife. I would like to have a wedding like theirs. Which means I would just like to hang out with my SO somewhere, take some pictures ourselves, and call it a wedding. If you never had a proper family, fear not, we would have one on our own. However, having a toxic childhood should not be an excuse for exhibiting toxic behaviors. I would never set myself on fire to keep you warm. It would not help.
Sex - It would be too intimidating if you have had unsafe sex, a lot of sex, or many sexual partners in the past. Premarital sex is off the table. People make fun of those who have never had sex, which I do not get; I do not care and even would very much prefer that, because I would not have to grieve over your past. But, then again, grieving is a part of life. It is alright if you are not a virgin, just do not lie to me about your sexual past. I do not really have a sex drive. Mentally speaking, I would be okay if you never wanted to have sex, I would also be okay if you wanted to have a lot of sex. Because I do not specifically crave for sex; I crave for love. In other word, I count all types of affection as a whole, and sex does not specifically stand out from all the rest. Physically speaking, I would not be compatible with those who have a high sex drive, as I think overindulgence in sex is destructive. Also, I would not be compatible with those who are into kinky sex/ filming sex tapes. There is nothing wrong with those, they are just not my thing. I think having boundaries in bed does not mean I do not love them, or love them less than those who have no boundaries. I would never take birth control pills/ wear an IUD, because they have many side effects that I do not want to deal with. Respect my choices.
Kids - I do not have kids. But I would like to raise kids. Ask yourself, honestly, if you are mature enough, and ready to be a father. "But I am not ready, just yet; there are things I want to achieve before I become a father." Find someone younger, then. I would like to add that I have no reason to doubt my fertility as I take reasonably good care of myself. I have no, and never had any, chronic diseases or illnesses. Am at a healthy weight, somewhat slim even. 5 feet 7 inches tall. In the event that I was infertile, surrogacy would not be an option. It goes against my morals. So, again, think twice. I would like to raise adopted kids, and treat them like they are my biological kids. I would not dump my husband if, he was found to be infertile at any point of the marriage. Technically I would be fine if you do not want to raise kids at all, but providing a home for some orphans is something I could do, and I do not want to pass that on.
Living together - I have always, and still am against the idea of living together before marriage. There is nothing wrong with cohabitation, it is just again not my thing. I would gladly introduce my roommate when I was in school to you if you are worried that I have some weird quirks. I might or might not bribe her before I introduce her to you.
Money - I am not rich, and was not born rich, but I have no debts. Never had debts. I am aware that some debts are justifiable, like student loan. I worked in the academia. I just started doing something new, related to my field of study, and that makes me happy. Whether you are a postdoc, or a high school drop out, makes no difference to me. For those who think that throwing me a sentence like “I am a lawyer” would be enough to make me talk, have some self respect. I am fine with my Reddit inbox collects only dust.
Religion - I suppose I have always been mostly an agnostic. My parents sent me to a Christian middle school, then a Christian high school. It would be great if you are a God believer and do not mind me being a non religious person. We could read Bible together. It would also be great if you are a non religious person but follow traditional values.
Smoking, drinking and doing drugs - I do not smoke cigarettes. Or vape. Or whatever. I do not do soft/ hard drugs. Have no past addictions. I do not take over-the-counter drugs even. I do not drink alcohol. If you drink responsibly, then I do not have a problem with that.
Dietary choices - I am an omnivore. Have no food allergies. Please be a meat eater. I do not want to get into an argument with you over a tuna egg sandwich I make for our kids. I would not raise my kids vegan. They should be able to make their own choices when they are old enough. I like cooking quite a bit. Would learn to cook all your favorite dishes.
Pets - I do not have any pets.
Gaming - I do not gamble. I have never played any video or computer games. Game soundtracks though I do often pay attention to.
Tattoos - Sure, why not?
Earrings - Why not? I would buy you earrings.
Long hair - Why not? I would braid your hair when you are asleep, though.
Politics - I am against communism, and totalitarianism. Trump 2020. Please read my reddit history.
P.S. This is Reddit, a wonderful yet utterly dangerous place, strangers. Especially for women. So many people prey on the weak. Even scammers would tell you that “you are everything I have been looking for since forever”. Canned messages are easy to spot, because I am smarter than you imagined. There were people who messaged me from throwaway accounts, which I noticed later filled with porn posts. Accounts with no post history are fishy. Anyhow at some point let's do a photo verification. Maybe we could take a selfie while holding a piece of paper with something like "Today's February 33 1920" written on it. Thank you all for sending me a selfie right off the bat. But I do not trust you enough to click on it. Also please do not ask me to talk to you over the phone/ do a video chat with you right off the bat. If you absolutely do not know what to write, check out "pinned post II", there's a list of 30 questions.
TL;DR - I am a non religious person who holds traditional values and beliefs, which for obvious reasons give me a hard time these days. If you see this post, message me, no matter when.
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2020.11.24 16:35 virginallioness My Life Is Unmanageable

It's mostly (27f) my fault.
I got sober a little over 4 years ago. Put myself through detox, treatment, halfway, 3/4s, then got my own place. I got a full time job but damn it's expensive to be alive. I made matters worse by taking in unwanted animals. I now have 2 rescue dogs, 5 cats on accident, 4 ferrets, and 11 bunnies. I fixed all of them and now working fixing the bunnies. The amount of time and energy on the animals should be under the unmanageability part but it's actually the easiest situation out of the others I'm currently in. I started escorting again (something I'd only do when I was using) to pay for it. Everything was easy peasy at first.
I met a client (38m) who developed feelings for me. We made plans and I was going to move to him in another state. He was loving, gentle, and patient. We started dating around the end of last year. I was still working dom jobs with a handful of clients and he was understanding about it. About a month ago I made plans one weekend to have dinner with my coworker because her son had gotten kicked out of a halfway house for drinking hand sanitizer and she wanted me to talk to him after dinner.
My boyfriend flipped out and it was a hard slap in the face - and for a week tried using gaslighting techniques into making me feel bad about going when that was a day he got off work early and could come see me (even though we didn't initially make any plans). It reminded me so much of my mom before she got treatment for her bipolar. His words were like venom and they cut through me like a knife. I told him we needed a break but deep down I don't think I'll ever forgive him for the things he said to me. He now sends me photos of himself in the waiting room of therapists offices because he promised he would get help. Even said it was because of an iron deficiency. We are on the rocks.
In the period of two years in my home I've had neighbors in the same unit (different times) I've had to call police on. One tried coming into my apartment and was arrested then evicted. I felt bad for his wife and new baby. The next tenant is what I think some type of paranoid schizophrenic. I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm part of some group in the building looking to get him evicted. I've received letters on my door like "You so sad, Pervert, We don't want you here, We know you do not want us here ect". I guess there's a process for evicting someone crazy...at least that's what the leasing manager said.
About 11 months ago I started getting emails and texts from an unknown person inquiring about my services as pro dom. This person became harassing and finally told me that she was out to ruin my life because I had ruined hers (husband paying me for service). I still have no idea who she is and I've exhausted all means in finding out. This year I've found trackers on my car, emails of compromising photos of myself sent to my father, my boss, and my boyfriend's coworkers, my leasing office manager. I've changed my number 3 times, I've gotten threats from her, I've tried going to a detective at the station (he can't find anything out either), I've gotten texts of photos of vehicle tags on my guests who come over and photos of me walking my dogs. I bought a firearm and wear it on a belt wrap holster every time I leave the house. I quit seeing clients. In the last 11 months I've seen the same blue Mercedes following me 3 times. I'm tired of looking over my shoulder. I'm more scared of finding out who it is and what I'll do to her than what she's been doing and will do to me.
I guess when I ended things with my ex recently I looked constantly visibly distraught, because my quiet shy next door neighbor spoke to me for the first time in 3 years. He started coming over and we had sleepovers for 3 weeks. Last week he told me he wanted a relationship and I freeaked. I told him all the reasons that was a bad idea for me and how I simply just couldn't handle that right now, but I wanted to still be friends. He's been bitter through text for 2 weeks. It felt good for a minute and nothing more. We went thrifting one day and I got mine and his (74$, I bought a little candle) then we went out to eat and he told me I had a 25 dollar budget and asked the waiter to go to the bartender to see how many ounces was a glass of wine. We were at freaking Applebee's. He also didn't know what a UTI was. I never should have slept with him.
One reason I shouldn't have is because my ex is a lawyer and told me the "gift" he gave me of 25,000$ he could sue me back for- claiming I pretended to love him or some shit. I slept with him last week so he wouldn't.
Another reason I shouldn't have is because after the night at my coworkers house when I spoke to her son about my journey in sobriety, I started sleeping with him. He's bat shit what can I say...I am attracted to crazy. I had to tell my coworker I've been helping her son with more than just accompanying him to meetings. Turns out she wanted that to happen and I got invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas in the mountains. He spent the night again last night. I don't know what the hell I'm doing with that.
I've been going underground on the review sites for provideclients in my area to see if anyone suspicious pops off that could lead to information about my stalker. One person was creating multiple accounts claiming I had given him an STD and other things. Thinking this was my stalker (and it very well could be) I created an account pretending to be a fellow client who was concerned. I had him email me and found the IP address- a local hospital. I had a past client I had to cut ties with that worked there that sent me flowers to my day job professing his love. Without hesitation (and I should have) I textnowed his girlfriend and told him he was seeing escorts.
Little did I know they've been married since 07 and have a 9 year old kid.
I'm sitting at work yesterday (reception desk) and I look up and SEE HIM. He's in a ruffed up white shirt and all 250 pounds of him are booking it toward me while he tries not to slide out of his brown flip flops. We lock eyes and it looked like he had just taken an intravenous shot of methamphetamines. I have a friend of the owner in the waiting room and his eyes narrowed. We watch him bust through the door and lean on my desk. "WHY, WHY, WHY DID YOU DO THAT, I'M NOT YOUR STALKER, WHYY". I turn to the customer seated and said, "Excuse me", while I swung the chair around and tried to calmly walk to the restroom where I could lock the door. He follows me repeating "Why" through panting and I open the door and twist around to slam it shut and he puts his warped flip flopped foot in between the door. I have to raise my voice and tell him to get the fuck off me while I pushed him out and pushed the door closed. After waiting for 2 minutes my coworker knocks on the door telling me they got him out of the building. I went back to my desk and worked the rest of the day a little more awake. Before I left I sent a textnow message to his wife, saying I knew where they lived and if he ever showed up to my work or my home I would defend myself. I haven't gotten a reply.
I've had "It's A Small World After All" stuck in my head the last 2 weeks. I've been playing Ava Maria and Lacrimosa on the piano at night till my fingers cramp. I bought a carton last week and already need to buy another one today. I'm currently cross stitching a pabst beer can. Last night I broke down and called my mom. My coworker just brought over christmas aloe vera socks and asked when me and her son will be official. I think I need therapy or an acid trip or an induced coma for the remainder of 2020.
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2020.11.24 13:34 gracelifechurch Does Grace Give Us A License To Sin?

Does Grace Give Us A License To Sin?

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One of the biggest criticisms of the gospel of grace comes from those who say teaching people extreme grace gives people a license to sin. I would agree with that, but then I’d be wrong too Just kidding.
I understand that perspective because I used to have it, too. I used to think if we tell people they are forgiven simply by believing in Jesus independent of their good works, why should they live holy? I thought the greasy, hyper-grace message empowered sin! I thought that because I didn’t get it. Grace doesn’t empower sin, it empowers us to know we are forgiven no matter what we’ve done. It also invites us into an encounter with the Lord in the midst of our failure so God can transform us and we can live out holy lives.
In Romans 5, Paul gives us his greatest treatise in scripture on our new identity that that the grace of God provides. Look at Romans 5:18-19:
18 Therefore, as through one man’s offense judgment came to all men, resulting in condemnation, even so through one Man’s righteous act the free gift came to all men, resulting in justification of life. 19 For as by one man’s disobedience many were made sinners, so also by one Man’s obedience many will be made righteous.
Through one man’s offense we were all made sinners. We were born guilty because of Adam’s sin. His sin brought corruption to himself that was passed down through his offspring including you and me. Through Jesus’s righteous act, however, the free gift of grace came to all men who believe. Just like Adam’s disobedience made everyone sinners, all who believe are made righteous through Jesus’s obedience.
This is the message the Apostle Paul took to his generation. He told people “It’s not about you and what you do. It’s all about Jesus. Believe in Jesus and be saved.” This was offensive then and it is offensive now because the human conscience causes us to feel like we have to do things to earn or maintain God’s free gift.
As I’m writing this, I can hear someone saying, “I see that salvation is a free gift that it is based on what Jesus did and not what I do….so why should I even try to live holy?” That’s an important question to ask. I’d go so far as to say if a person is reading this article and not asking that question, they don’t understand how free they are yet. Look at Romans 6:15-16:
15 What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not! 16 Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one’s slaves whom you obey, whether of sin leading to death, or of obedience leading to righteousness?
In this passage, Paul is answering the question, “Can we just live in sin because we are under grace?” What’s his response? Certainly not! He goes on to say, we become the slave of the one we obey. Satan wants to get us to live in sin so he can bring destruction to our lives.
For example, if go out and have an affair just because I am free and totally forgiven, bad things will happen. I could get the girl pregnant, get an STD, and if my wife finds out I’d probably end up divorced. Grace doesn’t remove the natural consequences of being stupid, When we sow to the flesh, we will reap corruption, so living in sin isn’t smart.
But does an affair cost me my salvation if I’m continuing to put my faith in Jesus? No. Jesus’s righteous act made the disobedient who believe in Him righteous so I’m still in right standing. To say my sin undoes His free gift means my sin is stronger than His blood. It doesn’t work that way.
If I maintain my faith in Jesus, I’m still saved even after I sin. There are consequences to sin, however, which is why Paul wrote wrote Romans 6:15-16. Paul wrote this to clarify the points he was making in Romans 5 about Jesus’s free gift because he knew someone would try to misapply what He was saying. Grace isn’t a license to live in sin. Grace is a license to live righteously.
The Bible says, where sin abounds, grace much more abounds. Grace is attracted to sin because grace is the only thing that can help us overcome sin! Grace invite us into an encounter with Jesus when we have royally messed up so He can cleanse us, remind us who we are, and show us how He will get us out of the mess we made. I pray you get a fresh revelation of God’s grace today, so you can superabound in the life He has called you to live!
If you’d like to learn about how Jesus restores us when we really mess up, check out this message I taught at Grace Life Church.
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2020.11.24 12:37 greenandgreener 31 [F4M] Anywhere - Looking for a lifelong, conservative relationship

  1. Wish you were here. I wanted to talk about Qantas airways.
  2. I just started watching Fargo. The second season. I looked up the cast of the show before I started watching it. Kristen Dunst is in it. When I was younger I heard people making fun of Dunst's teeth. I felt really bad for her. In an interview she did in 2019 she told the reporter that she was asked by some producers to have her teeth fixed, but she refused. Though she probably had dental work done at some point because her teeth do not look the same as before. I wondered what would have happened if she never had it done. And why can't we even accept an actress with "imperfect" teeth. David Bowie also had crooked teeth which he later fixed. I have heard many people claiming that his teeth did not bother them. I wondered if they would have said the same if it is just some random person with crooked teeth. I would be sad if their logic went like, the more talented a person is, the more crooked their teeth I could accept. My friend had a car accident in London some years ago and that messed something up. I am sure some men would have chosen to leave but hers did not. Her husband did not tell her to fix anything. A side note, fixing and repairing, in a relationship, are some essential skills. I do not want to be with someone who constantly thinks about jumping ship. Though we all know that some mistakes are simply beyond repair. "Would it be so bad if I slept with this girl, only once, behind my wife's back?" Yes, it would be over. I would like to find someone who not just likes the beginning of things but also the things after that. Someone who I could share both the best and the worst years of my life with. And, you know, someone to watch Fargo with.
What I am looking for -
Short version (there is a long version, with explanation, follows) -
A single, monogamous, adult man who is looking for a lifelong relationship, has time to be in a committed relationship, will become my best friend, is in shape/ not too out of shape, is reasonably healthy, is mentally healthy and stable/ mentally unhealthy and unstable but has been monitoring the progress, mentally available, is a meat eater, is a non smoke rarely smoke, is a non drinke social drinker, is a non drug addict (weed is fine), is a non gambling addict, is a non porn addict, is a virgin/ non virgin but was always responsible to their exes (always wore condoms and never had STDs), is okay with no cohabitation, is okay with no premarital sex, is not into anything kinky, wants kids (biological kids/ adopted kids), is okay with your spouse not taking birth control pills, is okay with your spouse not wearing an IUD, is debt free/ with justifiable debt, is religious/ non religious, is eligible to apply for a passport (and meet each other)
If you do not agree with everything I said above then we are not compatible. “I agreed with most of the things you said.” What does that even mean? I have had enough messages telling me that they do not entirely agree with what I said but would like to see where things go. The answer is nowhere. I do not have time nor do I want to build a castle on sand. I also have had enough messages telling me to reconsider things. I won't.
What I like -
Sun
Snow
Trees
Woodworking
Agriculture
Plants
Good food
Hot food
Hot soup
Warm words
Laughing
Wool yarn
Wool clothing
Names with stories, say like, street names
Dining wares
Trains
Photography
Old stories - old movies and shows
Good stories - movies, shows and documentaries, books, music with good lyrics
Good arts
Thrift stores
Flea markets
What I am looking for - Long version -
A strictly monogamous relationship that is happy, healthy, supportive, and lasts forever. I am not looking for dick pictures, chat buddies, dirty chat buddies, hookups, love affairs, friends, friends with benefits, sugar daddies, sugar uncles, sugar sons, rebound dating, short-term dating, several years dating, polyamorous, open, or online-only relationships.
Communication - I would make time to talk to my SO every day, and very much prefer so, even just to hear that they are safe and sound. But I would be understanding if they are out in Antarctica and the satellite Internet at the work station does not always work properly, or something like that. I would like to deal with all the hardships in life together as a team. Having arguments in a relationship is somewhat unavoidable. I like straightening things out, right away, in a logical, non violent, and non abusive way. I apologize when I make mistakes. Giving silent treatment is really not my thing. I am not saying that I do not have a temper. I do. I do get angry, but within reason. Keeping promises and being punctual are important to me.
Mental health - The amount of toxicity I could take is arguably higher than average, but please alert me if you are struggling mentally. On a side note, I hope you do not like watching porn. It is a poor choice, and is both physically and psychologically damaging. I am not asking everyone of you to agree with me on this, or any other things I say in this post. Whatever floats your boat, strangers; just let me have the freedom to find whatever I am looking for.
Distance - I am not looking for an online marriage. You could join me here. Or I could go there. A solid plan with solid dates would be needed. Future faking is a fucked up thing to do to another person. If you need nude pictures, phone sex or Skype sex to make a long distance relationship works, I am not the person you are looking for.
Meeting for the first time - I have given this a lot of thoughts, still I do not really know when and where would be good to meet up. We could meet either before we go into a relationship or after. It would probably be fairer for us to fly to a foreign place to meet, it means we would have to trust each other enough to do that. In that case it would make more sense to meet after the relationship has already been established. I think it is doable to fall for someone just by talking. Though I am aware that people are often not who they claimed they are. Those who say they are loyal could be experienced cheaters. But we will see. When in doubt, I ask questions.
Marriage - I have never been married but I would like to get married. The last thing I want is a divorce. The word marriage has sort of become a dirty word now but I am old fashioned. I like relationship labels, and I hope you are the same. A side note, I'm not into having a big wedding. Or a diamond ring. Or to dress fancy for a pre-wedding shoot. The National Gallery of Art has three self portraits of a Hungarian photographer and his wife. I would like to have a wedding like theirs. Which means I would just like to hang out with my SO somewhere, take some pictures ourselves, and call it a wedding. If you never had a proper family, fear not, we would have one on our own. However, having a toxic childhood should not be an excuse for exhibiting toxic behaviors. I would never set myself on fire to keep you warm. It would not help.
Sex - It would be too intimidating if you have had unsafe sex, a lot of sex, or many sexual partners in the past. Premarital sex is off the table. People make fun of those who have never had sex, which I do not get; I do not care and even would very much prefer that, because I would not have to grieve over your past. But, then again, grieving is a part of life. It is alright if you are not a virgin, just do not lie to me about your sexual past. I do not really have a sex drive. Mentally speaking, I would be okay if you never wanted to have sex, I would also be okay if you wanted to have a lot of sex. Because I do not specifically crave for sex; I crave for love. In other word, I count all types of affection as a whole, and sex does not specifically stand out from all the rest. Physically speaking, I would not be compatible with those who have a high sex drive, as I think overindulgence in sex is destructive. Also, I would not be compatible with those who are into kinky sex/ filming sex tapes. There is nothing wrong with those, they are just not my thing. I think having boundaries in bed does not mean I do not love them, or love them less than those who have no boundaries. I would never take birth control pills/ wear an IUD, because they have many side effects that I do not want to deal with. Respect my choices.
Kids - I do not have kids. But I would like to raise kids. Ask yourself, honestly, if you are mature enough, and ready to be a father. "But I am not ready, just yet; there are things I want to achieve before I become a father." Find someone younger, then. I would like to add that I have no reason to doubt my fertility as I take reasonably good care of myself. I have no, and never had any, chronic diseases or illnesses. Am at a healthy weight, somewhat slim even. 5 feet 7 inches tall. In the event that I was infertile, surrogacy would not be an option. It goes against my morals. So, again, think twice. I would like to raise adopted kids, and treat them like they are my biological kids. I would not dump my husband if, he was found to be infertile at any point of the marriage. Technically I would be fine if you do not want to raise kids at all, but providing a home for some orphans is something I could do, and I do not want to pass that on.
Living together - I have always, and still am against the idea of living together before marriage. There is nothing wrong with cohabitation, it is just again not my thing. I would gladly introduce my roommate when I was in school to you if you are worried that I have some weird quirks. I might or might not bribe her before I introduce her to you.
Money - I am not rich, and was not born rich, but I have no debts. Never had debts. I am aware that some debts are justifiable, like student loan. I worked in the academia. I just started doing something new, related to my field of study, and that makes me happy. Whether you are a postdoc, or a high school drop out, makes no difference to me. For those who think that throwing me a sentence like “I am a lawyer” would be enough to make me talk, have some self respect. I am fine with my Reddit inbox collects only dust.
Religion - I suppose I have always been mostly an agnostic. My parents sent me to a Christian middle school, then a Christian high school. It would be great if you are a God believer and do not mind me being a non religious person. We could read Bible together. It would also be great if you are a non religious person but follow traditional values.
Smoking, drinking and doing drugs - I do not smoke cigarettes. Or vape. Or whatever. I do not do soft/ hard drugs. Have no past addictions. I do not take over-the-counter drugs even. I do not drink alcohol. If you drink responsibly, then I do not have a problem with that.
Dietary choices - I am an omnivore. Have no food allergies. Please be a meat eater. I do not want to get into an argument with you over a tuna egg sandwich I make for our kids. I would not raise my kids vegan. They should be able to make their own choices when they are old enough. I like cooking quite a bit. Would learn to cook all your favorite dishes.
Pets - I do not have any pets.
Gaming - I do not gamble. I have never played any video or computer games. Game soundtracks though I do often pay attention to.
Tattoos - Sure, why not?
Earrings - Why not? I would buy you earrings.
Long hair - Why not? I would braid your hair when you are asleep, though.
Politics - I am against communism, and totalitarianism. Trump 2020. Please read my reddit history.
P.S. This is Reddit, a wonderful yet utterly dangerous place, strangers. Especially for women. So many people prey on the weak. Even scammers would tell you that “you are everything I have been looking for since forever”. Canned messages are easy to spot, because I am smarter than you imagined. There were people who messaged me from throwaway accounts, which I noticed later filled with porn posts. Accounts with no post history are fishy. Anyhow at some point let's do a photo verification. Maybe we could take a selfie while holding a piece of paper with something like "Today's February 33 1920" written on it. Thank you all for sending me a selfie right off the bat. But I do not trust you enough to click on it. Also please do not ask me to talk to you over the phone/ do a video chat with you right off the bat. If you absolutely do not know what to write, check out "pinned post II", there's a list of 30 questions. If you have a lot of things to tell me, check out “pinned post II”, there’s a list of 30 questions.
TL;DR - I am a non religious person who holds traditional values and beliefs, which for obvious reasons give me a hard time these days. If you see this post, message me, no matter when.
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2020.11.24 12:25 rodnarf chronically late SBs

I'm looking for a new SB on SA and going through the difficult process of weeding out the fakes/undesirables. I have realistic expectations as I've done this a while and know how much harder it has gotten the last few years.
Three days ago online, I met a great prospect, and we have been chatting, texting and a couple facetimes to get comfortable with each other- and skipping the details- everything looked great. We discussed everything including allowance, STDs, etc. and our first meet up was to be yesterday. She is 21 at the local college and lives with a roommate. She is a communications major, loves to talk, I love to listen, and had way more interaction than pretty much anyone I've ever met at this point in the relationship. For the record, I'm also chatting with a number of others, but not as far along nor certain if they are genuine. This gal is genuine.
Yesterday, my understanding was we'd meet up around 4PM. I get up usually at 5AM (don't judge me haha) but that means I go to bed around 9PM, and I shared that in the discussions. Didnt make a big deal about it, but I'm a lightweight once it gets too late. So I was all set with booze, weed, and excited because I really do like enthusiastic personalities. I'm looking for an ongoing thing, I have cash to burn, and she is hot and fun. And I also just find out she is a little nervous, because she hasnt met anyone ever before.
So around 4 I'm sitting on my hands watching the clock, and its delayed because (new info) they are spontaneously flying to Florida in the morning, and thus a friend has to come over and get their dog, she has to shower, and then she is ready. No biggie for me.
So around 5, she messages the friend is about to leave, but she is going to get her nails done at the salon downstairs, then after that shower, then c'mon over. Of course I get progress pictures of her nails and toes haha.
Inside my head I'm not happy, but I don't know this person yet, so I'm outwardly fine with it. The pedicure/manicure drags on, at 6:30 she mentions she is almost done, then shower, etc. So finally at 7 I texted her I was losing interest. She was still at the nail salon at that point.
So a flurry of exchanges, she is super apologetic, etc. etc. etc. but honestly, I don't like it, and in a very nice way, she now understands I don't do well with personalities that are chronically late. I am totally fine with chronically late people, they make the world go around, but I am looking for someone more prompt and reliable, because as a SD, that is the best way for a SB to fit into my life. So I was politely declining to meet her now. And of course she was upset, was willing to skip the shower and drive directly to my house, etc. (at that point no way) and then talked me into a second chance when she is back after Thanksgiving.
She claims she isnt a chronically late personality, her roommate talked her into the pedicure stuff (not a good defense haha), and she layed it on thick. I told her I would try again, but today, the morning after, at 6AM, I wonder if I will. Super cute, local, enthusiastic, but above all I hate having my time wasted, and if we try again, and something similar happens, then its my fault, not hers. Not making the same mistake twice is huge for me, So I don't know if I'll try to see her. I do have choices, so I'm not under any pressure, but I just don't know. She claims yesterday was an anomoly, and I hate making the same mistake twice. Has anyone else shared my experience on either side of the relationship?
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2020.11.24 02:47 Prokinsey I read the Duggar sex manual so you don't have to! - "Intended for Pleasure" by Dr. Ed Wheat, Chapters 1-5

Whenever the Duggars are asked about sex they bring up Dr. Ed Wheat, Boobs sex doctopediatrician, and they always reference his book “Intended for Pleasure”. It would appear that this is THE Duggar sex book. The first edition of “Intended for Pleasure” was published in 1977. Jim Bob and Michelle were married in 1984, after the second edition was published. Anna and Josh were married in 2008, two years before the fourth edition was published. I’ll be reading the fourth edition. Skip to chapter 4 for the steamy stuff.
In the foreword, Dr. Dennis Rainey strokes the late Wheats ego, calls him a “prophet”, and complains about the sexual revolution. Rainey instructs parents to give this book to their children when they get engaged and have them read the first 100 pages + chapter 14 on STDs now and save the rest for “later”. The PDF version of the book doesn't have the pages formatted or numbered like the physical copy so I can't tell you where you're supposed to stop reading if you aren't married yet.
In the Preface to the Fourth Edition, Dow Pursley strokes Wheats ego and thanks a few people.
Chapter 1 - Intended For Pleasure
  1. This chapter opens with Wheat explaining that as a doctor he can only fix so much and that’s why he provides GODLY CHRISTIAN COUNSEL to his patients. Apparently, everyone and their dog were piling into Wheats office to ask him about their sex problems. The solution was GOD. God says sex and marriage are good and you should do three things: 1) “When we marry we should stop being dependant on our parents and in-laws. We are to become completely dependant on our mates to satisfy ALL of our needs. (Duggar fail #1) 2) The man is responsible for holding the marriage together by “cleaving” to his wife. (Sex Pest fail #1) CLEAVING in this sense means to weld together inseparably, so that each becomes a part of the other. Therefore, the man is to be totally committed to his one wife. 3) We are commanded to be joined together in sexual union, to be ONE FLESH.”
  2. Wheat THOROUGHLY rebuffs the idea that humans are animals or anything like animals. We’re BETTER than animals.
  3. Wheat is obsessed with scriptural references to sex. He says every book of the bible talks about married sex and it’s the ultimate good.
Chapter 2 - Finding God’s Design
  1. When an Arkansas couple attempts to make an appointment at Wheats office for their state-mandated pre-marriage blood test Wheat tells them they need to read four of his books first, including this one, which means he added that statement in the second or later edition.
  2. At the same time, he says he “asks” the couple to listen to two of his audiobooks before their appointment, and then says that the same information is available in chapter 4 of this book, which makes the information redundant. He must’ve made a pretty penny selling his books to people who just wanted a blood test.
  3. Reading these books and listening to these CDs supposedly ‘dispels many uncertainties and fears’, allows the couple to “begin their marriage with openness and communication”, and teaches them everything they need to know about sex.
  4. During the appointment for the state-mandated blood test Wheat likes to get handsy and quiz people. Has your doctor ever assigned you homework? He says “this procedure assures me that they’ve been told what they need to know and it affords me the time to go over the basic principles of the God-planned marriage with them during the office call.” Why he couldn’t quiz you with your clothes on I do not know.
  5. Wheat also does “premarriage counseling sessions” (clothes on or off? He didn’t say this time.). He says during the first meeting he gives the couple 11 biblical principles to ensure a happy marriage that works on anyone, believer or not, and that non-christian couples are “unable” to meet these standards. Huh?
  6. The first principle he teaches is “Reserve funds to allow for a few weeks of uninterrupted time for a honeymoon” The second: “Borrow no money” The third: “Be independent of in-laws. Leave Father and Mother. (Don’t live in your dad's storage unit.)” The fourth: “Declare a moratorium on media for the first year. (Don’t be a fame whore.)” The fifth: “Never go to bed with an unreconciled relationship” The sixth: “Seek outside spiritual counsel if unable to resolve a major conflict within one week.” The seventh: “Seek counsel if the wife is unable to attain good sexual release” The eighth: “Have bible study together every day” The ninth: “The husband must be 100% committed to loving his wife. The wife must be 100% committed to being submissive.” The tenth: “The husband is to be head of his wife.” The eleventh: “And the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
Chapter 3 - Choosing to Love
  1. Biblical love is a choice, and it’s called “agape love”. “Agape love” is “unconditional and irrevocable.”
  2. Wheat talks for the millionth time about “leaving and cleaving”.
  3. “The fact is, the Bible gives no indication that the feeling the world calls love is to be the foundation for marriage.”
Chapter 4 - Understanding the Basics
  1. This chapter explains in excruciating detail the importance of understanding the anatomy of the genitals. He says that naming the anatomy of your genitals is akin to Adam naming the animals in the garden.
  2. Wheat refers to the female reproductive system as the “female birth-giving organs”.
  3. There are two very unhelpful drawings of the female anatomy. One is a side view of the internal structures that makes the bowel, uterus, and bladder look like one blobby mass. The second is a “front view” of the internal female anatomy that would leave you to believe your large bowel is one short, straight tube that goes up to your lungs.
  4. The written explanation of the female anatomy is actually decent. The recommendations on pap smears are out of date.
  5. There’s an illustration of “obtaining a pap smear” that makes the vagina look a foot long and doesn’t involve a speculum. The caption calls pap smears “painless”, which isn’t the case when they use the broom that goes into the cervical os. Anyone who goes for their first pap having read this explanation and no other is in for a lot of surprises.
  6. Wheat claims that all of the natural lubricant a female person produces will pool in the back of the vagina and has to be “brought out” of the vaginal opening and clitoris. This isn’t true. The vagina does produce some minimal lubricant during sexual excitement, but the majority of it is produced by two glands that excrete on either side of the vaginal opening. If she isn’t wet at the opening diving for lubricant isn’t going to help anything.
  7. Wheat says the husband will need to apply a lubricant if the wife doesn’t adequately self-lubricate, as if a female person applying lubricant just didn’t occur to him.
  8. Wheat explains the procedure for an engaged woman to stretch her hymen so sex on her wedding night won’t be painful. This involves placing one, and eventually two, lubricated fingers completely inside the vagina, starting 2-4 weeks before her wedding and practicing every day. Can you imagine the Duggar girls going on a special-magical trip to the bathroom each day to prepare themselves for intercourse?
  9. The instructions for the husband to stretch the vaginal opening on the wedding night are to insert three (3!!!) fingers into the vagina, slowly over the course of 15-30 minutes, until all three fingers are fully inserted. He advises this may cause tearing(!!!), and that blood can be stopped by holding a tissue to the torn area. He also advises that if you tear you can still have intercourse, and if that causes more tearing to repeat the tissue procedure, and still you can have intercourse again the next day.
  10. In the illustration of “stretching the hymen” the caption says that this “procedure” can also be done by the physician. Can you imagine one of the Duggar girls set up in stirrups getting her vagina stretched by an old sex doctor for 30 minutes while Michelle holds their hand and coaches them to breathe?
  11. Wheat describes a “special position” to be used on the wedding night to bypass any remaining hymen. The wife puts two pillows under her hips, straightens her legs out, the husband approaches from above, and when she can slowly bring her knees up for comfort the husband “should no longer force the penis in, but allow her to thrust her pelvis…”
  12. His last-ditch option if you just can’t get it in is to apply a numbing cream to the vaginal opening so she doesn’t feel it when you force your penis inside her.
  13. Once you’ve got it in Wheat advises “At the time of first intercourse, the husband should not persist in striving to bring his wife to orgasm with his penis in the vagina. … After the penis is inserted, the husband should have his orgasm quickly, withdraw the penis, and stimulate his wife’s clitoral area gently with his fingers to bring her to orgasm.”
  14. While finally describing what the clitoris is Wheat explains a procedure he does when women have pain in their clitoris during sex: he inserts a metal probe under the prepuce “and the adhesions will be released.”
  15. Wheat is pro-period-sex, stating “The is no medical reason for avoiding intercourse during any part of the menstrual period.”
  16. Wheat advises mothers that virgins can use tampons and they will not cause sexual pleasure.
  17. Wheat has a very progressive view of PMS, saying that “PMS is not a character disorder. The symptoms that occur with PMS do not mean that a woman is weak or unstable or that she’s lost touch with God. These symptoms are a result of physical changes, not of emotional or spiritual weakness.”
  18. The male diagrams are just as useless as the female ones.
  19. Wheat describes circumcision as a “hygienic procedure”.
Chapter 5 - One Flesh
  1. Wheat blames the average virginal newlywed's problems on “brainwashing by the romantic novels and movies that suggested that “it all comes naturally””
  2. Wheat says “In considering buying or building a home, you should pay close attention to having your bedroom and bath as isolated as possible from other rooms. Every master bedroom needs a good lock, controlled from the inside, of course. Every child should be trained not to disturb his mother and daddy when their bedroom door is locked.”
  3. Wheat also says “Under no circumstances should you allow a child to sleep in your room with you, except perhaps a new baby for the first six months or less.” We know the Duggars let their small kids sleep in their room when they’re sick or injured, per the TV show when all the small kids had a stomach bug and when one of the little girls had her tonsils out. The recommendation to move a baby out of the room at 6 months contradicts the AAP, who says infants should sleep in their parent's room for the first year of life to reduce the risk of SIDS.
  4. Wheat recommends low-to-no light during “lovemaking”, saying “the mystery of the body enhances the lovemaking experience.”
  5. Wheat says a bath or shower before “sex play” shows your “mate how important the event of physical unity is.” He goes on to say “Bathing and shaving at night will show love, respect, and an anticipation of closeness.”
  6. Wheat encourages foreplay that involves “caressing each other all over” and that it should never be hurried. “Only lust and self-gratification are done in haste.”
  7. “Experimenting” is allowed. “The union of marriage frees the couple to enjoy their bodies in whatever ways are most pleasing, provided that both are being pleased. Without restrictions (other than selfish acts that hurt the partner or evoke distaste), the couple should feel free to experiment and to “know” each other in the most intimate sense possible.”
  8. Touch the boobies only after caressing everywhere else. “After the preliminary period of stroking the entire body, the husband may enjoy fondling his wife’s breasts, and she may enjoy his caresses and kisses on the nipple area. ”
  9. This guy has a weird obsession with the color of the labia.
  10. Wheat spends a lot of time talking about exactly what happens to the female genitalia during foreplay and sex, like how many times this part increases in size, or what color this turns, and exactly how many seconds this takes.
  11. Wheat advises the young couple that certain positions may cause pain to the wife but “After several children have been born, the tissues around the vagina will be stretched, and the wife will then be more comfortable in varied positions.”
  12. Wheat describes a few sex positions for us. The first is “male-above”, which he claims is “by far the most commonly used and gives the husband freedom of movement plus greatest control of strength and rapidity of thrusting. Most couples consider this the most satisfying of all positions.” Next, he describes the “female-above” where the wife is advised to straddle him, lean forward, and insert the penis “at about a 45-degree angle and moves back on the shaft, rather than sitting down on it.” This position is advantageous because it “gives the husband access to her breasts. He also has free use of his hands to better stimulate the clitoris, if necessary, while they are joined in sexual intercourse. ” On to “lateral” or “side-by-side position”. You’re supposed to start like the “female-above” and then roll over onto your sides so you’re facing each other. Finally, we meet the “male-behind position” which Wheat says is “seldom used but may be tried on occasion” This isn’t the “doggy-style” that you and I know and love, no. This is done with the husband and wife both laying on their sides facing the same direction.
  13. Wheat has repeatedly reassured us in this chapter that the size of the penis has nothing to do with sexual satisfaction.
  14. He describes the female orgasm as “as a momentary feeling of suspension, followed by a sensation of warmth starting in the perineal area and pervading the entire body. Rhythmic contractions of the lower third of the vagina follow.” I guess I’ve been doing it wrong all these years. You guys are getting suspension and warm fuzzies?
  15. Men are advised to do 5 things to “increase the physical intensity and pleasure of your orgasm”. “1) wait at least 24 hours after previous orgasm to allow the body to store a larger volume of seminal fluid. 2) Lengthen the foreplay and excitement period so that the penis can remain erect for 20 minutes. 3) Increase your imagination factor by seeing and feeling your wife’s ecstatic response to your knowledgeable and skillful physical stimulation, which brings her to the point of maximum physical pleasure. 4) Voluntarily contract your anal sphincter muscles during your orgasm. 5) Increase the force of thrusting while your orgasm is in progress.”
  16. Wheat advises you might twitch all over when you cum.
  17. You should be giving your wife multiple orgasms: “As soon as the husband finishes ejaculation, he should begin manual stimulation of his wife’s clitoris, so that she can have repeated orgasms. This is the way the woman is designed! She should not have to ask for this, as the whole sex relationship is a pattern of pleasing each other. This means it is not desirable to change pace by having to ask for something for one’s self. It should be the natural desire of the husband to provide every pleasure he knows of, and the wife may be intensely pleased by this continuing stimulation. ”
Stay tuned for next time when we learn about "Solutions to Common Problems", "The Preorgasmic Wife: Fulfillment Ahead", "For The Husband With Erectile Dysfunction: Fulfillment Again", "The Power of Sexual Intimacy", "The "Perfect" Wife (By Gaye Wheat)", "Planning and Achieving Parenthood", and "Sex During Pregnancy"
If there's anything you're curious about that you think I can find with Ctrl+F drop a comment below and I'll do my best.
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2020.11.23 23:17 minccin0 Writing a loop for sorting elements of an array into files

I have a struct array of cars with different colors, makes, models, and speeds. They are all randomized. I managed to get the array itself to sort based on alphabetical order of the strings of each member (colors, makes, and models) what I need to do now is figure out how to have each car print out into a file for each make, each color, and each model. For example, every blue car is in a file for blue cars only.
What I tried to do was write a loop where each iteration it would check to see if the condition is met, but there are 40 conditions. So for example, after it would go through the array and every time it reaches a blue car, it'll print that car into the file. But I have no efficient way of getting the condition to change on its own without me having to write each one. Like after its found all the blue cars, It has to find the yellow cars next and I have to specify that with another if statement after.
If I need to provide a snippet of the code let me know. This is for a college assignment for an introductory course. We use namespace std also.
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